It really does take a community to raise our children. But here is the interesting thing… Everything you need to know, you already know. Our role is to help you remember and use what is already uniquely present in your family and community to support your journey to co-learn about and co-create a community-oriented rite of passage.
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3 Ways to Get Started
- Model Initiation in Simple, Small Ways Daily: Begin the journey to remember what we all once knew, but have forgotten. We hope to help you take the first steps in this journey by offering 8 ideas listed below to start modeling expected community attitudes, values, and behaviors.
- Become a Community Organizer: Call forth elders to form a “community” through your social network. Who in your family, neighborhood do you know who also have children about your child’s age that you can form a community of caring to support children’s transition to adulthood? If you don’t know who might become part of the “village,” ask your child if they know of another older person(s) they look up to.
- Deepen the Conversation: Once you have a core group, continue co-learning and co-designing together using the resources provided. We don’t know the “answers,” but we know that as one who immersed in your place and community in conversation with others in the core group you have helped cultivate you do. If you need help deepening these conversations you may contact David and Jen about joining us around the “Electronic Campfire.”
Model Initiation in Simple, Small Ways Daily
The following are some ideas to consider as opportunities to start modeling expected community attitudes, values, and behaviors:
- Honor or Create Family Customs and Traditions. If you don’t have any, co-create traditions with your child. What about sitting down to dinner together as a family? Pick one night and make it tradition. Begin the meal by making a connection with each other, the food, the bounty and blessings before you. The purpose of ritual is to bring into conscious reality attunement and a sense of connection with each other and your surroundings.
- Ritualize the Little Things Because They Can be So Big. Like: How do you greet one another first thing in the morning? How do you say good night? How can your family and community values be reflected in how you say hello or good-bye to a loved one?
- Connect with Nature. What is home? If you asked your child this question what answers do you hear? Does home extend beyond a man-made structure into the natural world and the natural relationships that exist in our lives? How can our children find and fully embrace their authentic selves if they don’t know where they are? Go outside every day, even in the hot sun or cold snow. Experience “home” and time from the perspective of Mother Nature.
- Give the Gift of Silence. Silence helps our children develop their own internal dialogue in order to narrate and understand the world, giving meaning to their lives. Our children need time alone – quite time to think and reflect. Abundant opportunities are all around – just listen.
- Discuss and Practice Your Values Explicitly. Help your children explore and embody shared family and community values through experiences like co-creating a living document that reflects your family’s values.
- Listen To and Honor Your Child’s Voice. Children are naturally inquisitive who see and experience the world through a personal filter. If our children are going to become catalysts that help to transform our future they need to be part of changing the story. Looking at the world through the fresh eyes of a child can help us see things differently and help us to adapt to a changing world. That is actually one of the central reasons for rites of passage. To capture the uniqueness of an adolescents “adaptive brain.”
- Express Gratitude. Have a dedicated time where everyone in your family reflects on what you are grateful for and how your attitudes and behaviors can bring more of that into your life. Remember, the little things matter.
- Embrace an Attitude of Playfulness in Learning and Life. Exploring and embracing risk and failure are essential elements for growth. Inspire an attitude of playfulness in your child by modeling it yourself. Help your child find and explore his or her interests, passions, inherent gifts and develop their talents.
Conversations – from the Latin – conversatinoem (conversation) “act of living with,” – conversari “to live with, keep company with,” literally “turn about with.”
Please contact Jen (email firstname.lastname@example.org or call (239) 287-8475) to schedule a free 30 minute consultation.
Subsequent conversations are $100 per hour with discounts for those opting for an on-going mentor relationship or perhaps your community is ready to gather around our Electronic Campfire and become part of a global village. If you are unsure or the cost is prohibitive, please ask about a free consultation and we can discuss what might be possible or what other resources might be useful.
Electronic Campfires for Changing Consciousness
All children are our children. Parents, grandparents and caretakers are part of an global village. You are not alone. You can be the community organizer who brings a core group into conversation about raising our children and community oriented rites of passage.
For Jen, her children and husband are the delight of her life. Just as people can designed with nature our backyard or school gardens, Jen views herself and her children as co-designers in an emerging learning landscape. Jen has a Masters in International Education from George Mason University, based in the International Baccalaureate (IB) Programme. She has had the honor of learning with and helping mentor children both here in the US and all over the world from early childhood through upper elementary age.
Jen’s experiences living and learning within a variety of places, cultures, and learning communities around the world has shaped shaped her beliefs and values about the amazing interconnectedness within this world. The primary goal in what Jen does within her family and PERMIE KIDs is to nourish life.
Continue the Learning
The following are just a few of the recommended resources to continue your journey of initiating youth and community development through rites of passage.
The Busyness of Raising Children: Are we nourishing the lives of our children? © by Dr. David Blumenkrantz, Ph.D. M.Ed., published in the Social Justice Solutions (SJS)
It Takes a Whole Child to Raise a Village, Jen Mendez and David Blumenkrantz interviewed by Scott Mann on The Permaculture Podcast, Episode 1529
Changing Our Consciousness for Coming of Age the RITE Way, video presentation by Dr. David Blumenkrantz from an Edge Alliance
5 Things to Do Daily that Will Transform the Learning Landscape, PERMIE KIDs Podcast by Jen Mendez, Episode 295
Education: Our Greatest Wasted Resources (Part I) by Dr. David Blumenkrantz
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